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06
Nov
10

How to rebuild a relationship?

I’m totally estranged from my family. For a number of reasons I won’t discuss here, things got more and more tense until it reached a breaking point at which point I stopped answering their phone calls and didn’t give them a forwarding address when I moved and now, 6-8 moves and almost 20 years later we’ve lost touch.

And now I feel another similar thing coming on in my life. Things are awkward between me and a former loved one. Where years ago we enjoyed each others’ company, I’ve strayed and now when it even looks like they’re coming around I start to tense up. And when they’re around I find myself depressed and watching the clock waiting for them to leave.

It’s pretty horrible, because their visits are pretty long. Usually they show up about now and stay until sometime in March or even as late as April. That’s a long time to be sitting around poisoning one’s mind with frequent thoughts of “I hate you, I wish you’d just go.” And as you can imagine it takes a bit of an emotional toll.

OK, to all those people who came here through a search for “Sage Todd Divorce” on google a couple years ago when my company sent me off to Quebec City on business for 8 months, quit nodding to yourselves, you’re wrong. The one I’m having trouble getting along with is winter.

I used to like winter. As a kid growing up in Vermont I would spend hours outside with friends sledding. I remember going hiking in the woods in the middle of winter, breaking holes through iced over brooks to get a drink. But now the cold drives me crazy. The same level of discomfort that has Sage running screaming for air conditioning in July (while I bask in the 35°C day imagining myself to be storing the heat up for the winter) makes me do all I can to avoid going outside in the winter. The end result is a pretty dismal 5 months spent mostly indoors – except for those times I’m outside on the way somewhere – usually as quickly as I can to minimize the amount of time spent in the cold.

It gets me through the winter for sure, but every year I dread the time more. It’s to the point now where I’m having fantasies about work assignments in the southern hemisphere – or better yet somewhere where it never goes below 25°C. And I see the pattern emerging. As you can see I’m already considering changing my phone number so winter can’t come calling. Except, unlike the family I no longer am in contact with, winter’s not an asshole. In fact, many folks I know really love it and don’t see it as a time they spend with cold extremities starved for daylight wishing it was over.

So I’m thinking of trying an experiment. I know there are a lot of people who like winter. Perhaps you could help me find a way to enjoy the season. What is it you like about the season? What do you do to make winter enjoyable? Make your suggestions and I’ll give them a shot and report back. (OK, if your suggestions involve “Get on a plane to Cuba sometime in February” I can’t really do that.) Leave your suggestions in the comments and I’ll start putting them into action right away.

02
Nov
08

Austerity Update

My apologies for those who this is going to bore to tears – being public about progress (or backslides) gives me further motivation to do well so as to avoid looking bad here.

So anyway, the austerity game has not yet started so this almost represents a baseline of where I’m starting from. And because I’m working on several things (diet, exercise, caffeine, etc) I’ll include them all here:

Money:
Fortunately the game hadn’t started yet as I stopped at a new vegetarian restaurant at Broadview & Gerrard and spent about $8 (including tip) for lunch there before going shopping. The good news, though, is that I did do most of our grocery shopping for the week (I got all I could carry – getting more today). I also spent $8.95 on an Adbusters magazine. Between the two of those things I would’ve spent the bulk of a week’s allowance or possibly ended up cleaning litter boxes.

Exercise/Cycling:
I’m trying to take cycling over transit wherever possible even if I don’t necessarily travel with the rest of the family. It’s not as sad as it sounds, though. Often I get where we’re going quicker than everyone else (so nobody waits for me) and everyone reads their own books on the bus anyway so it isn’t as if we’re losing tons of family time.

So yesterday I took a short ride down to Broadview and Gerrard to go to the Asian market and then to the health food store. By the time I was done my panniers were filled to overflowing (good thing they have this drawstring ‘extension’ that I can use to overfill them. I wasn’t able to get everything on the list but I came close. I’ll pick up the few other things I need today – I might also try to head over to get a wok (sad story – our 18 yo cat found her way into the cupboard and used the last one as a litter box – ick!) though I don’t know if my panniers can handle it.

Tomorrow I’m working in the Concord office, 30 km away. Weather looks a little threatening so I’m not sure if I’ll bike or travel by transit. I’ll watch things this afternoon and make a decision. Haven’t decided if I’ll go out and get a GTA pass or not.

Diet/weight:
Sage, Paul, and I actually cooked dinner together for the first time in my memory. Chili and cornbread – both vegan. Delicious! Leftovers for brunch today. All the food we’ve bought for the week is vegan and if we’re good and don’t dine out we’ll manage to stay vegan. At 189 lbs today.

Caffeine Consumption:
Caffeine consumption is markedly down. Last Wednesday was my peak of consumption – half a pot at home, an extra large at Timmy’s on the way in, and probably another 1/2 pot at work. This is NOT good and is very likely a good part of why my weight is coming back – caffeine makes me ravenously hungry in that quantity and I eat much more. Since then I’ve dropped my consumption considerably. I’m down to just the 1/2 pot (not as bad as it sounds – 2 mugs) in the morning. The past couple of days that’s meant a pretty big headache for much of the day. Good news is no headache today and it feels like I might not have one.

I’ve been drinking a ton of rooibos tea, however. I find I really enjoy it and for some reason I drink more of it than I would the equivalent amount of coffee. Maybe subconsciously I keep drinking it waiting for the nonexistent caffeine to hit.

So overall I am starting this project in a pretty good mood – quite optimistic about where it’ll go.

01
Nov
08

Worm Composting?

Just putting the question out here and on my various social networks:

Currently we live in a highrise. Recyclables (and to some extent freecyclables) go into the recycling room in the basement while the remainder gets tossed down a gigantic chute and is magically carried away to Michigan. Now sinigle-family residences in Toronto can participate in the ‘green bin’ program. Effectively this works as curbside compost. Toss all your organics in a big green bin and it gets picked up weekly and composted. But highrises aren’t able to participate in this program, and really, when you think of a place with as much as 300-500 households, there are truly some logistical issues to be overcome there.

Meanwhile, we’re tossing a bunch of organic wastes down the magic chute to Michigan. Meanwhile, I’ve heard a bit about Worm Composting and am a little intrigued. I wonder if this isn’t a viable option for us with some of the compost going to Paul’s extensive plant life in his room and the remainder just being dumped over the fence into the nearby ravine.

So the question is: Has anyone done this? Are there any problems to worry about? Pests, smells, or maybe it’s just a bad idea to dispose of the compost that way?

01
Nov
08

What’s new

So as I said in the last entry it’s been a while since I’ve done an entry here and a fair number of things have happened since then.

First off: I’m finally back from Quebec City. The project there is done and I’m back in Toronto. On the one hand I’m glad to be back, and on the other I’m a bit sad to see it end. If I’m going to have to travel for work, there are few better places than that to be assigned. As for what happens next, it’s hard to say. You never know in my industry where your next project will be until often weeks or even days before you start there. In the meantime I’m working locally. It’s a little difficult, though. I’m really glad to be back but part of me is reluctant to get back into routines (shopping, cooking, library, gym, etc) just because who knows if I’ll have to head back out again. I realize that this is hugely counterproductive and will result in my living in a horrible self-imposed limbo. I’m working on changing it.

A couple of weeks ago Paul and I went down to see Sage’s mom in the Ozarks. This time given gas prices, etc, it actually worked out to be about the same cost for Paul and I to go by plane than by car with the added bonus that I didn’t have to drive 17 hours each way. As usual, the trip was really wonderful. It was so good to see everyone and just relax for a bit. Living basically as we did at the yurt for a week, though, was eyeopening. It made it clear how much unnecessary money we’re spending, how much time we’re spending with technology instead of people. Again, something to work on – and probably this was the seed that grew into our upcoming austerity game. One thing I was glad to have managed to do while I was there was to record a Talking Stick podcast episode: Leaving the Beaten Path while I was there. I realized that it was at the community I was staying at that I learned that there was more than one way to live one’s life and that one could be happy living all sorts of different ways. So I asked everyone there how they made that same realization. The answers and stories were quite interesting.

So mostly now, after a hectic bunch of travel – there was one four week stretch where every weekend I was flying somewhere – I am still trying to land. It is being easier said than done. Part of me is, of course, glad to be home (and frankly would like to stay home for a long time). But getting back in to the routine after not having lived here for 6 months and during those six months having lived out of a hotel room, dined at restaurants and been flying back and forth across Canada isn’t easy. It’s not that I particularly liked it – not having to cook is nice in the short term but I missed it after a while – but it’s as if I don’t really know how to get back in to a routine here. The closest analogy is playing jump rope. The rope is swinging and I’m standing there trying to figure out how/when to jump in and not trip myself up. Oh, except I don’t really know when the folks who are swinging the rope might decide to “pack up and leave” sending me off on another work trip. In fact, part of me feels like saying “the hell with it – I know it is coming – let’s just bring it on already. All in all a stupid way to live but I’m working through it.

Meanwhile, once again, my caffeine consumption is getting out of hand. I realized it the other day when I noticed that by the time I got to work I’d had 4 cups of coffee and was working on my fifth at 9AM. And with the extra coffee (and the reduced physical activity) I am eating more and have gained back about half of what I had lost before leaving for Quebec. And so I’m on my way towards reducing my caffeine intake again. Yesterday I limited myself to half a pot of coffee and sad to say I ended up with a headache even with that much. But I took some Tylenol and pushed through it. I’m also, as much as I can, getting back in to the habit of taking my bike places. My current client and office are way up in the northern (read: you’re insane to ride a bike up there as drivers don’t even know you exist) suburbs. But for the time being in Toronto, anyway, I’m back on the bike. I also am starting back up with the spin classes and back on the vegan eating train.

But for the most part, despite what seems to be a bit of a dismal entry, things are going well. I’m looking upon the various changes (diet, decaffeination, exercise and austerity) as challenges not punishment and looking forward as I always do to seeing what happens in the coming months.

01
Nov
08

Austerity Game

Yes, I know, it’s been quite some time since I’d posted here. I always seem to have something else to do. It’s been a good few weeks, though, and I’ll try to catch you up over the course of a few entries since if I try to do it all in this one, #1 you won’t read it, and #2 I probably won’t spend the time in one sitting to write it. Anyway:

It’s no secret that my intentions are a bit higher than many of my actions. I talked about one aspect of that in Imperfect Crusaders. I’ve talked about voluntary simplicity, anticorporatism and the like here on numerous occasions. However, one thing that Sage and I have struggled with over the years has been the fact that if we have money we spend it. We don’t have any debt and only operate in cash or charge (not credit) cards, but despite that we notice that we are spending far too much money. Sage spends hers on dining out mostly. I, too, spend mine on that as well though toss in books and music as well. Periodically we (usually I) get the gimmes for some toy or another and spend money on that as well.

All this while railing against consumerism. Ironic, eh? Good thing I’m not a member of the Stop Shopping Clergy.

Anyway, Sage and I are going to try to put an end to this – or at least bring it under a bit more control with a new approach this time. We’re making a game of it. Here are the rules:

Each of us gets $20/week to spend or save as we see fit. Beyond that, we are allowed no frivolous spending. What’s frivolous? We pretty much have it narrowed down to anything that we don’t need for daily survival: groceries, household products, rent, utilities. We did allow a couple of not 100% necessary things as well. Library fines (which Sage has a fair number of from time to time) are OK, and spin classes which I hopefully will resume going to often are also covered.

Now for the penalties. We each needed to choose something, a consequence for failing that we’d want to avoid. In my case, should I stray and spend more than my weekly $20, I have to clean litterboxes for a week. Sage would have to make fresh vegetable juice (and clean ths juicer – usually the one who makes it doesn’t have to clean up in our house) for all of us every day for a week. Keep screwing up and your one week clock starts over. And if the other person screws up in the middle of your penalty? Your penalty ends and theirs begins.

I know, all in all it’s pretty silly but we’ve figured out that at least in our lives, making games out of things like this is the most successful way to get things done. I can’t remember if I mentioned before but we were both *terrible* housekeepers. And then one day we started playing gin rummy with the loser doing a chore and things totally changed. So I’m hopeful that with our new game we can get our actions a bit more in line with our beliefs. Or at least I can get fresh vegetable juice more often…

21
Sep
08

Reality Meets Fiction in Social Media

How crazy is this? Fans of Sage’s Blue Peach audioplay series may be surprised to see fiction meeting reality as both Max Frappier and Scott Pappin are now campaigning online at twitter for the Toronto-Buxton riding seat. The best part is that their respective idols, Stephen Harper and Jack Layton stepped up to the plate and almost immediately followed them. If you’re on twitter, you should show your support for them as well.

And if you haven’t already listened to Blue Peach, you’re missing out and need to remedy that. The episode guide is here and the second season will be coming soon.

15
Aug
08

The Night the Lights Went Out

While we were living in the desert southwest had only just started to think about moving to Toronto, and never lost power, I was still out on the town last night celebrating the fifth anniversary of The Night the Lights Went Out. Several parties had gathered together, marched down Bloor street and then temporarily took over the intersection of Bloor and Spadina, installing fruit trees, “statues”, fire spinners, dancers, and lots of music and reveling. After about 10 min, police came and directed traffic for a bit while we dismantled the party and moved it to the parkette at the corner where it was still going on when I left about an hour later. Sound like a crazy idea? It isn’t the first time something like this has been undertaken. A much larger project, likely part of the inspiration for this one was undertaken in the UK.

Curious? Have a look at my photos, or better yet, have a look at the far better photos of ardenstreet or Martin Reis. Facebook members may want to check out this short video.

07
Aug
08

Bike Buses Arriving in Toronto Soon

Along with everything else I’m working on, I’ve started a new and very exciting project, bringing Bike Buses to Toronto. Already successful in cities like Sydney, Vancouver, and San Francisco, bike buses make a tremendous amount of sense in a city that has the perfect storm of high gas prices, numerous cyclists, and inadequate cycling infrastructure. Watch our new site: Toronto Bike Buses for more details as things develop!

05
Aug
08

Soundseeing: P. S. Kensington

I recently got my own Zoom H4 and have been having fun using it for field recording in much the same way a street photographer takes photos as they go around the city. As I am still learning, much of the audio is lost due to excessive wind noise or other issues. This clip, however, worked out really well.

Pedestrian Sundays happen once a month during the summer in Kensington Market in Toronto. Several streets get completely closed off and are taken over by performers, giant scrabble and chess games, chalk drawing, labyrinths, street food vendors, and other fun activities. Last month, Paul and I volunteered to watch the entrance at one street to prevent cars from coming in, and while we did it we played and watched others play at “Stream of Consciousness” – a small collaborative poem in chalk that eventually became a city block’s worth of words and drawings.

At the end of our volunteer “shift”, I had another meeting to go to. Sage went home with Paul and I headed to my meeting. On the way I ran in to Samba Elegua. I managed to record a bit of that performance to share with you. You can listen to it here.

13
Jul
08

Toronto Night Market

Last night Paul and I braved the possibility of rain, and hopped a bus to just outside of the Toronto city limits to go to Markham, a city to the north-east of Toronto with a very large Chinese population. The reason? The Toronto Night Market. What’s a Night Market? Well according to Wikipedia:

Night markets or night bazaars are street markets operating at night mainly in urban or suburban areas that are generally dedicated to more leisurely strolling, shopping, and eating than more businesslike day markets.

The most well-known night markets are those in Taiwan or other areas inhabited by ethnic Chinese such as Hong Kong, Macau, Singapore, Malaysia, China, Thailand, and Chinatowns worldwide. The night market, however, originated in Taiwan, which hosts numerous night markets in each of its major cities. The larger and more formal of these markets might take place in purpose-built marketplaces while smaller or more informal ones tend to occupy streets or roads that are normal thoroughfares by day. Although some of these markets are specialized (e.g., in certain types of food), most have a mixture of individual stalls hawking clothing, consumer goods, xiaochi (snacks or fast food), and specialty drinks. The atmosphere is usually crowded and noisy with hawkers shouting and fast-paced music playing over loudspeakers. Some individual vendors may take advantage of the informality of the market to offer counterfeit, pirated or grey market consumer goods. The night markets usually open around 6pm, and are busy until past midnight.

Toronto’s night market was absolutely all of that. And while there was no shortage of $2 DVDs, and game stalls, Paul and I were there to have a few culinary adventures. And we weren’t disappointed.

Over the past few months, Paul and have watched a number of Bizarre Foods episodes on youtube. It’s become an addiction, though I think we’ve seen all that are online now. We enjoyed watching someone else try strange foods, some of which looked very unappetizing (stinky tofu), while others such as crispy snake skin made us grab our own snacks.

Toronto Night Market - Before dark

As soon as we got there, we became aware of just how much stinky tofu is a part of the night market scene. We were, we later found out, hundreds of feet from where the tofu was actually being cooked, but the strong smell of fermentation and a smell reminiscent of halitosis carried all the way over to where we had our first adventure. This one, not so adventurous. Fish Ballls:

Toronto Night Market - Fish Balls

These were tasty but not as flavourful as I expected. The red sauce is a chili oil that was just spicy enough to give Paul a bit of a burn in the back of his throat. Both of us thought they were OK but wouldn’t go seek them out again.

We moved on, closer to the smell of stinky tofu when I came across a stall selling various stinky tofu soups. I settled upon what looked to be the least adventurous. Ironically, it might’ve been the most adventurous thing I’d ever eaten: Taiwan style spicy stinky tofu soup with pig blood and pork intestine.

Toronto Night Market - Stinky Tofu Soup

The flavour of the broth was actually quite good, scented with what I think was 5 spice powder. There was also a huge quantity of chili in the broth making this possibly one of the spiciest things I’ve ever eaten. There was only one piece of intestine in the soup, with the consistency of a rubber band and little flavour. The blood was similarly low on flavour, tasting like what I have heard others call it: “black tofu”. The tofu itself was not as bad as it smelled. It had a bit of a cheese-like flavour to it. I was only able to eat about half of the bowl, though, for a couple reasons. The first is that as spicy as it was, it was going to take a while. The other part is that back in the yurt years I was made very sick by some “accidental” stinky tofu. I thought I wrote an entry about that story but apparently I didn’t.

In brief, we didn’t have a fridge so we kept our food in a cooler buried in the ground, occasionally putting plastic bottles of ice (frozen at our friends’ house) in to keep the food cool. However, we had forgotten to change the ice for a while and so I took out a couple pounds of tofu to make dinner with and found it warm. “What’s the worst that can happen?” I thought, “It’s not even animal product so it should be relatively safe.” There was no bad smell, and I sliced some of it for Paul to eat as he preferred it – raw with dipping sauce while I took the rest and prepared jerk tofu and rice. A few minutes after I started to prepare our dinner I turned around to catch the then 2 year old Paul, standing before his bowl of tofu on the floor, peeing in the bowl. After a bit of a WTF moment, we concluded that Paul wasn’t really hungry then and I finished making dinner. Sage, not a fan of Jamaican food, skipped the jerk tofu leaving it all for me. It was quite delicious.

Hours later, I woke up in the middle of the night feeling as sick as I’ve ever felt. I tried to stand up but found myself so dizzy I couldn’t stand up and crawled out the door to find a place to rid myself of dinner. I spent the next few days in absolute agony – dizzy, weak, and sick. And we became well aware of what peeing in the bowl of tofu meant – “WARNING! DO NOT EAT!!”


And that’s why I was a little leery of stinky tofu. Still, I did enjoy it so maybe my own stinky tofu preparation method was a bit flawed.

Next to the Stinky Tofu Soup stall was another one that smelled absolutely delicious. This one sold Murtabak, a Malaysian stuffed bread dish. Behind a counter stood several men, rolling and tossing small balls of dough in a manner not unlike someone making a pizza crust. On offer were two different stuffings – beef or chicken. We chose the chicken and they prepared it for us.
Toronto Night Market - Preparing Murtabak

At the end we were presented with a pastry, crisp on the outside, soft/chewy on the inside. The chicken inside had a bit of a coconut flavour, and we garnished ours with a bit of peanut sauce and chili paste.

Toronto Night Market - Murtabak

Without a doubt, this was the tastiest food we chose in the whole evening. Unlike the fish balls, I would, and likely will, go looking for this again.

Toronto Night Market - Squid Stand

Moving on from there we joined what was now an absolute sea of humanity with families holding on to each others clothes so as to not lose each other as they filtered through the crush. Personal space no longer existed.

Toronto Night Market

The crush led us past skewers of cooking meat, fish, and even squid to the source of the strong smell that pervaded the entire market. Fried stinky tofu. Somehow, by putting the stinky tofu into hot oil, all of the aromatic chemicals are aerosolized, thus ensuring that anyone within 100 metres of the market knows where it is. It looks deceivingly good, though:
Toronto Night Market - Fried Stinky Tofu

I tried for much of the night to get up the courage to try it but I never succeeded, apparently I had found my limit. Meanwhile, Paul decided to have a bit of an adventure of his own. This time with duck necks.
Toronto Night Market - Duck Neck
Each neck costs $5 and comes with a free drink. When you order it, the stall owner takes one of the necks, chops it about 10 pieces and hands it to you in a bag.

Eating duck neck is a lot of work for a small bit of food. The food itself wasn’t bad – a little spicy and with a hint of five-spice or anise. We sat at the edge of the crowd and ate and planned the rest of our evening. When we finished, we headed back into the crowd to see what else we could find – this time being offered a sample of beef wrapped around mushrooms. Neither of us liked them that much and in fact were so anxious to get rid of the taste that we ended up at a nearby tea stall where we bought a apple-rose oolong iced tea. Paul really enjoyed it and offered me some and I relented, finding out too late that it was bubble tea. For the uninitiated, bubble tea is made by taking a perfectly good iced tea and tossing in large tapioca “pearls” and sometimes other little bits of jelly in it. The effect, to me, is like vomiting in reverse. Any drink you have to chew is just not right. But still, the tea itself tasted really good and so I lived with it.

The next thing I knew, I looked down at my blackberry and saw that it was 10:30 – we’d been there for hours. We decided to make one last dash through the crowd, get a couple more things, pick up an ice cream, and then head home. And so the last things we tried were Taiwanese sausage on a stick (tasty, but there’s that five spice again!), and dim sum which were relatively bland, leading me to believe that I should’ve picked up a bit of dipping sauce.

It wasn’t until we got on the bus that I noticed that having spent almost four hours at the night market, the two of us had begun to smell of stinky tofu with the scent pervading our skin and clothes. On the positive side, we had lots of space, and our own seats on the way home…




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